Thursday, April 02, 2009
I think all guys should read this
its an article extracted from the newspaper
I'm gonna translate it from Chinese to English
pardon me if I dont do a good job
just read, I will type it in such a way that everyone can understand =)
here goes:
"I'm so gonna break up with him! He doesn't love me at all! I wanted to have burger for dinner but he insisted on having ramen!"
This might sound stupid to most people. Its but just a dinner. How can it ever lead to a break up?!
We (females) are always complaining how mad and upset we are towards our partner.
Most complains include "why cant he understand the problem?"
and the only reason why is because guys are not able to see why such small things would make us so upset. Thus, its not easy for them to make changes.
In a relationship, we (females) are the ones who mention "break up" most frequently. Surprisingly, reasons being are not just because he has an affair, committed a crime or is being violent towards us. There are lots of other hidden reasons.
Nowadays, the reason for a broken relationship are always summarise as "unhappy relationship" which leads to "mental torture". And this "mental torture" happens when the other half neglect us, ain't understanding enough or lack of communication.
We can never understand why guys would choose to watch TV or game instead of chatting with us. Why guys cant bother to call and talk to us yet bother to chat with friends on msn. sometime despite knowing that she is upset, guys just can't lay down their pride and apologize sincerely/willingly.
after all, guys are just confused. "what exactly have I done wrong? or are they (females) are asking for more?" these questions pop up in a guy's mind very often.
well, guys can learn to understand us/know what we (females) are thinking as easy as snapping his finger if he wants to. There isn't a need for u (males) to change. All u have to do is to spend some time, understanding and responding to our complains/nagging and mood swings. Naturally, all this grumbles will disappear.
What we (females) really need is a guy who can be with us through ups and downs. be there when we need him. Put us into consideration when making decision and put in effort to really understand how we might feel by putting himself in our shoes. and a guy who really has that chemistry with us.
If a guy bother to put our feeling into consideration and let us feel that we are actually very important, we would definitely put ourselves in his shoes and think from his point of view, making things easier for him.
when both parties put each other in the top priority, they would be able to create a perfect relationship with love and compromise.
after all, be it burger or ramen. as long as the accompany is right, it will be a perfect meal regardless of the food.